The weight of the Crown

The crown is heavy. Anyone can wear it, but not everyone can handle it. Christ carried the crown—so much power, yet He never let it destroy Him or change who He was. King Arthur wore it—and it didn’t break him. Hitler wore it—and it crushed him. The same is true for you... and your family. Your family looks up to you—your wife, your kids—they look to you like people once looked to the king, especially in the hard times when the weight is heaviest. 

 When times are good, the crown feels light. But when the pressure comes—when the storms hit—that’s when it bears down on your head. That’s when the burden feels like too much. And yet... that’s when a man must carry it. Your family needs you to make the hard calls, to deal with the consequences—whatever they are. We could talk about how your wife needs to help, but this isn’t about her. It’s about you. It’s about the weight of the crown on the man’s head.  

The crown leaves marks. All the greats know that. They accept the victories... and the losses. You don’t lead a nation, but you lead the home. And the home? That makes the nation. If the crown feels too heavy for you, if you can’t hold it steady... that’s not on your wife. Not on your kids. Not on your work. That’s on you. Because if you didn’t prepare your mind, heart, and soul... if you didn’t build the discipline and wisdom to lead... then the cracks in your empire, the rebellion in your own house—that’s on you.  

Don’t make excuses. "My wife... my kids... my job..." No. Find solutions, not excuses. They can help—but the weight is yours. You wear the crown. You make the call. Start now. Because the longer you wait, the heavier it gets. If you’ve been lax in your duty, if your little empire is crumbling it's on you. The deeper the hole, the higher the climb.  

Make no mistake—if you don’t start leading now, it will only get worse. Talk to your people. No, they won’t get what they want all the time. Neither can the crown. That’s where the hard choices come in. But they need to know—you’re the man. The one with the crown atop his head. And you will do what’s best for the family, for the home, for the future. 

We all falter—except One. So I suggest we try to be like Him. No, we’ll never be perfect. But we must try. Do it for your family. Wear the crown with pride. Accept the weight. Accept the pain. And make it worth it. Build a happy home. Raise strong sons. Raise beautiful daughters. Raise them to be kings and queens of respect and honor themselves. 

Written by The Boss, Founder of DapperChaz.